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7/10
Low budget with strong cast and a great simple story line, a bit awkward in the telling
secondtake5 July 2012
Handsome Harry (2009)

The title is perfectly understated, and a bit misleading, whatever your first impressions. Harry is the main character, a man around 60 with memories of a brutal beating he and some fellow sailors gave a mate of theirs in the Viet Nam era. Long ago. The main thread of the movie follows him as he revisits each of the participants, including the man who was beaten.

With such a solid structure you are in some ways hooked. Each encounter has its own twists. And each time we see, through flashbacks, a sharpening picture of what really happened. It's a fascinating building of a story, even with some weakness here and there in the writing and acting.

And key to it all is a misguided homophobia, and what turns out to be a more complicated fear of being outed and a little self-loathing. Some of the characters Harry visits are finely tuned types, well acted. We see how everyone has changed, and how their sense of who they are, alone and to each other, has also changed.

Most of all we see Harry come to terms with his own demons on this. Jamey Sheridan plays him with studied restraint, and yet gives the man enough believable nuances to keep it honest. The biggest name in the cast is the first of Harry's encounters, Steve Buscemi, but if you are a fan of his (as you should be) be prepared that his role is really limited. And John Savage appears as one of the group, too. There are some strains in the other actors' parts either because of their ability to pull off a mostly talking movie or because the writing itself stumbles. In particular you'll see Harry barge into a classroom and interrupt the teacher and sort of take over the podium for a minute, and it's so out of character and unlikely it almost punctures the whole movie.

But hang in there. The final chapter or two is intense and written with poignancy. And it might surprise some viewers. A strong finish to a good, sometimes lugubrious, somewhat strained telling.
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7/10
Good film, great acting
beachgirlk15 February 2011
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I saw this film because my husband and I are fans of Jamey Sheridan as well as some of the other actors. It was great to see John Savage, as always! We both enjoyed the film. The beginning stumbled a little for me; some of the dialog was stilted and stiff in its exposition and the opening few scenes were, overall, bland with nothing new. My other problem was with the editing of the sequences. I could not tell where Harry was, literally, in a number of the scenes. I didn't know whether he was driving far or near. But that's a small problem. The acting, as previously stated, was very good and it's a testament to the writer, director, and producer that they were able to get this impressive cast together and get this small film made in these precarious times. Once the opening scenes in Harry's adopted home town were over, the movie picked up and became interesting. Jamey Sheridan was quite wonderful in the role. It made me think of his role in "The Ice Storm" which was also wonderful. If you like small intimate dramas, then this is something you can really enjoy. It's a shame that it is not seen more, but hopefully, it will have a new life on Pay Cable.
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5/10
Like watching an old episode of Matlock
ripcurl722 December 2010
Perhaps this will not be a very fair or complete review. We could not get through this movie no matter how hard we tried.

The telegraphed dialog and the wooden delivery of the actors, particularly with Mr. Sheridan, made me feel like I was watching a re-run of Matlock or Murder She Wrote.

Un-inventive, predictable and sophomoric are words that come to mind.

In one of the first scenes from the film, when we see Harry in his favorite restaurant, I was waiting for someone to start listing all the possible side effects of taking the mood altering pharmaceutical they were pitching... oh wait, this was supposed to be a movie. But it sure seems like a commercial for senior medicine.

If you like thrillers from the Lifetime network, this is for you.

If you like well made movies that have believable characters, look elsewhere.
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Handsome devil
huedez29 December 2010
On to the movie, it was pretty entertaining as far as indie films go. Jamie Sheridan played a complex, tortured and in the end, cowardly role. The destruction of his own life and other women around him is very sad indeed and art mirrors life. Not the happiest film certainly not a four star but certainly worth renting if you like something different than buildings getting blown up and cameras that spin. The tender scenes both gay and straight are done realistically and leave little to the imagination where sex is involved. I like Jamie as an actor and I was surprised that he took to this role and even more surprising was seeing his name as one of the producers. Good for you, Jamie. Handsome indeed.
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6/10
Tiresome Harry, social identity versus persona
oscarlawren28 December 2010
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This film sets off with a pensive mood, as the leading character, repair shop-owner Harry is being teased and a waitress invites him to have more intimate contact with her. Harry seems an earnest man, reflective, he is wanting to do the honest thing. So it seems. He refuses the offer to sleep with the wife of his friend, a Navy sailor, who uses tablets to enhance his love-life. Harry is really a gentleman that is conforming to the southern old style, a beau for the belles. But as he is thrown out and the wife of his former friend accompanies him, as she is leaving her man, they consume their relationship more intimately. But as the movie progresses the story turns into something totally different. Be forewarned, this is not a thriller but a movie about Harry's betrayal of his male lover. The hinting is carefully done, but after an hour the director goes wild on his narrative organ, throws his registers wide open and the film becomes a whimpering tragedy about masculine love. It all fell into places then, the predilection for men in uniform, the warm mates. And then comes the revelation about the crime, which is not a crime, but more of a Dionysian frenzy evoked by a lover who wishes to destroy his lover to avoid his own detection. So this is the story about a sacrifice.

And in order not to shame his family, and not undermine his vocation in the direction of priesthood, Harry incites his comrades and bashes the hand of his lover, maiming him and ending thereby his career. The victim remains fascinated by his lover, he keeps tracing him throughout his life and career. If this is not Identity-stalking for you, what is? And there is one other peculiar storyline which of course is typical for the gay community: gay becomes priest to avoid being outed. Harry wanted to be a priest. He tells a friend that he did not become a priest because the chaplain on the ship kept combing his hair when he told him about his vocation and longing for the Lord, the man did not turn around. So Harry submitted his cause, and the chaplain leaves because he had an appointment with higher quarters, no not Heaven, but the Navy-captain. This has put Harry off for good.. It is just another saddening fact in a totally confusing biography? So Harry decides, as he is no priest stuff as a Navy-sparky, he will drop the idea of becoming a priest. So much for his higher idealism. The name of the movie is Handsome Harry but it should be called Tiresome Harry.. This is a tired movie about tired people who confuse their lust and fascination for love. The title is misleading the public by positing itself as a thriller and being a story about guilt. Harry doesn't feel any real guilt, he is glad he has escaped detection by his mates. It is a sorry no-sorry movie which should be better labeled for viewers. A sad coming out, but not-coming out story, as Harry flees to where no one knows him. This movie will be appreciated by the gay community, but for viewers that go for crime and straight male-female relationship and romance it is a saddening waste of time. The depth is all fabrication and the tragedy is no real tragedy at all, but confusion of mind and a story of sheer cowardliness. I felt sorry for the waitress..
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6/10
Uneven
savanna-227 August 2017
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I would like to give this film a higher rating, but something felt all wrong, the whole time. It started with the feeling that I was watching Kevin Costner as the leading man, Harry Sweeney. What, they couldn't afford Costner, so they asked Jamey Sheridan to give it his best shot? Even my husband thought it was Costner and we decided the beard was a ploy to obfuscate Sheridan's longer face.

The other problem had to do with the number of other little stories, within a story. Too many people to care about any of them or the arc of their lives since the central incident 30 years in the past.

It would have been better to cut the number of men by two, extend the time Harry spent with each man and his family. Additionally, Harry should have been, either a childless widower fruitlessly pursuing the diner waitress OR a widower fruitlessly pursuing a relationship with his estranged son.

Now, to the best parts of the film. The flashback sequences depicting the burgeoning relationship between Harry and David. The two young actors caught the essence of the relationship, with quick glances, knowing looks and body language. I wished there had been more with them, before the central event. It was beautiful, sweet and poignant.

AND the last scenes with Campbell Scott. He was perfect. He was mature, he was shattered, he was solid, he was fragile, he was strong. Did I mention he was perfect?

Made me sad that we had spent all that time with Harry and his dirty dishwater life. I wanted to see David. How David became the person we met at the end.

I've been purposely vague, hopefully not spoiling too much for those who haven't seen the film.
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7/10
Great performances in desperation and melancholy
MBunge9 February 2012
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With a relaxed, gliding surface and a jagged soul underneath, Handsome Harry is a rather…well, pleasant isn't the word to use for a tale of middle-aged female desperation and just-plain-aged male melancholy. Most of these characters are on the back end of their useful lives and they know it. Their happiness and their own futures are no longer in their own hands and they're dependent on others to an extent they don't like to admit to themselves. Everyone in this story is practically a stranger to everyone else, even spouses, lovers and one-time best friends. But what draws you into this film and carries you along is the honest humanity of people grappling with their awkward, messy and diminishing lives.

Harry Sweeney (Jamey Sheridan) is a silver-haired fox. A small town electrician, he's the sort of beguiling charmer who can still make any woman over 30 smile while being guy every other man over 50 wishes he was more like. But when Harry gets a call from an old Vietnam era Navy buddy, he has to let his easy smile drop and take a journey back to the most awful moment of his life. The buddy, Thomas Kelley (Steve Buscemi), is dying and asks Harry for some help saying out of Hell. 35 years earlier, Harry, Tommy and three others almost beat a 6th friend to death after finding out he was gay. Tommy thinks he's the one who crushed the guy's hand with a metal armature and begs Harry to travel to Miami and seek forgiveness on his behalf. The trip brings Harry to the doorsteps of the other three, now ensconced in lives not anywhere as comfortable as they seem. Rheems (John Savage) has had his manhood and his family fall to ashes. Porter (Aidan Quinn) has a knot of anger and self-loathing in his heart that hasn't loosed with the passing years. Gebhardt (Titus Welliver) has made himself into his best idea of a man, only to fall into a trap from which he can escape only by destroying everything good in his heart. And their victim, David Kagan (Campbell Scott)? He's the one who seeks out Harry and forces him to be honest about himself for perhaps the first time in his life.

The plot of this film isn't anything to write home about, serving only as the stage upon which Harry and others play out the little scenes of their lives, but the performances more than make up for it. Led by Jamey Sheridan's accessible torment, Steve Buscemi's despair and the simmering anger of John Savage, Aidan Quinn and Titus Welliver, you can't take your eyes off this cast. And that's not even getting into the painful loneliness of Mariann Mayberry as Rheem's wife and Karen Young as a waitress who's carried a torch for Harry for many years. Watching these actors play these roles is a marvelous experience. Campbell Scott doesn't quite make it, but that's mostly because Kagan is more a plot device bringing the movie to an end rather than a real person.

Handsome Harry would have been even better if the plot had given those performances some direction and used them to build to a conclusion instead of letting one simply occur. This sort of story should be like walking up a flight of stairs, with each step taking you to a new level of drama and emotion until you reach the top, which is a culmination of every step taken before. Handsome Harry is more like taking one step up and then walking along a flat beam. You're off the ground but you never get any higher than when you started. As engrossing as these individual scenes are, they don't do enough to connect with or build upon one another. That stands out most clearly at the end, which is supposed to be emotionally crushing but isn't that much worse than what we've previously seen from Harry's friends and their own personal tortures.

This isn't a feel good film, but it isn't a feel bad movie either. Handsome Harry is a motion picture that just makes you feel. And that's more than worth watching.
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4/10
Missed opportunity
hughman556 June 2011
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You know, if you don't have a good script you don't have a chance of ending up with a good movie. The exposition in this film is way long and is filled with flat dialog and cardboard characters. The "plot twist", which did surprise me, was unfulfilling because there is never a point in the story where any suspense, or empathy for the characters, is built up. If you blink you will miss Steve Buscemi and Campbell Scott, who are both very good for the short time they appear.

It really is a shame because the plot is very intriguing: two men reunite, former lovers in the Navy, whose relationship ended when the more closeted one at the time joined in with other sailors in gay bashing the other to cover for himself. While I wouldn't presume to suggest "how" to write a screenplay around this story, I would say don't do it this way. It was like watching paint dry. Paint that's a color you don't particularly like.

The story ends without forgiveness or resolution, which in and of itself is not a bad way to end. But, if you never developed an interest in the characters, their struggles, or the story itself, that it remains unresolved is just one more sour note on top of all the others.

As compelling as this story is on paper, it was delivered with such detachment and hack dialog that it really just comes off as a wasted opportunity. How they got Steve Buscemi, Campbell Scott, and John Savage, to board this nose dive is inexplicable. I wish it had been good. I really do...
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10/10
The Agony of Denial: Consequences
gradyharp6 December 2010
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HANDSOME HARRY is a brave little film, written by Nicholas T. Proferes and directed by Bette Gordon, a film that should be required viewing as the absurdities of the 'Don't ask, Don't tell' debate continue to divide this country. This is a script so tightly and beautifully constructed that it poses questions to the audience and lets the audience arrive at its own conclusions. It is a searingly intense story, successful in the manner in which the director allowed the cast of extraordinary actors to simply let the tale play out. There is a profound honesty here that is rarely found in other films that take on tough subjects, and without preaching, sermonizing, or taking sides it simply places an incident before our eyes, allowing the incident and its subsequent permutations of its consequences mold the characters we meet.

Harry Sweeney (Jamey Sheridan, a brilliant stage actor who should have been considered for an Oscar for this performance) is Handsome Harry - calm, somewhat secretive middle-aged man living in a small town where he is known as a good guy and a good singer to the acquaintances in the town diner. Divorced, father to a son Bobby (Asher Grodman) with whom he has difficulty relating, Harry is considering selling his electronic shop to his sole employee Pauley (Bill Sage) when Bobby arrives from Chicago for a strained weekend visit. The visit is interrupted by a telephone call from Kelley (Steve Buscemi) who is hospitalized with only days to live: Kelley insists he speak with Harry and out of obligation to his old friend Vietnam war buddy, Harry goes out of town for the visit. Kelley shares his tortured secret with Harry: thirty years ago while serving in the Navy Kelley and Harry were in a tight group of sailors - Harry, Kelley, Porter (Aidan Quinn), Rheems (John Savage), Gebhardt (Titus Welliver) and Kagan (Campbell Scott) - and in a drunken brawl all of the the group subjected Kagan to a beating because of homophobia: all of the men participated in the cruel act but one crushed the jazz pianist Kagan's right hand with an armature, destroying the hand from ever performing again. Kelley's reason for calling Harry is that Kelley believes he was the one who crushed Kagan's hand and wants Harry to find Kagan and ask him for forgiveness. Kelley dies after Harry promises o fulfill his mission.

Harry sets out to find Kagan on trail of all of his group of fellows who served in Vietnam thirty years ago. We meet each one: Porter is a professor who has distanced himself in name and place from the shame of the incident; Rheems is a wealthy land investor whose marriage is crumbling under the strain of alcohol, homophobia, and dark memories and Harry's unwanted visit results in Rheems throwing his wife Judy (Mariann Mayberry) out along with Harry; Gebhardt has become a evangelistic redneck who also is blinded by homophobia. None of the men will discuss the old incident or assist Harry in defining whether Kelley was responsible for the crushing injuring or not. Harry finds Kagan's address, and when Kagan isn't home he leaves a note with Kagan's housekeeper explaining his visit. Harry returns home, distraught, emotionally exhausted, desiring an end to the lingering nightmare of that beating thirty years ago. After singing in a quartet contest Harry spies Kagan in the audience and the two leave for a dinner in a deserted restaurant. There Kagan shares ALL of the truth about the incident and about his relationship with Harry and the film ends quietly and painfully with the truth being on the table.

Every member in the cast is a first class actor, but the profound depth of Jamey Sheridan's recreation of the role of Harry is simply stunning. Buscemi, Quinn, and especially Campbell Scott also provide powerful performances. The film is haunted by the music of Anton Sanko and cinematographer Nigel Bluck sustains the mood of the piece with a fine grasp of just how much of each of the characters' physical features to show to make the story propel. Director Bette Gordon should be honored not only for the brilliance of her direction but also for the courage in sharing this sensitive story that is one of the strongest views of the inequities of the current military/governmental debate about equality in the military. Brilliant film!

Grady Harp
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1/10
Don't waste your time
ffejhawk22 December 2010
I am a big fan of Steve Buscemi so I expected a lot out of this film, boy was I wrong, like the other reviewer I agree this felt like watching an episode of Matlock, only an episode of Matlock would probably be more entertaining. Characters were very dry and without any depth or believable emotion, like they could care less about their lines or the movie as a whole and that transfers to the viewers interest in watching it. I am not going to drone on and on as some do and I have never reviewed another title but this film I felt has a very deceiving rating and I hope this review and the other gentlemen's that also gave us an honest opinion are helpful in curving others from wasting their time on this piece of garbage. I would also like to say I am not sure what magazine that other reviewer stole that over worded tripe to explain what they saw, but if they in fact sat there and wrote with such passion for this crap they obviously need some real entertainment to use as a marker.
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9/10
Wow - just wow
GrammarMatters30 June 2011
I watched this moving while knowing NOTHING about it - and I am VERY glad I did.

There are so many movies out there that I always spend lots of time looking through IMDb to decide whether a movie is worth my time or not. First I check the rating, and then if it is over 5.5 I read the summary and maybe some reviews and sometimes the Message board comments.

I'm SO GLAD I didn't know anything about this movie when I watched it. I won't spoil the movie for you by pointing out the main conflict the movie takes a long time to get around to telling us all about.

But that is what I liked about this movie. It tells the story about a crime that occurred long ago - and we just start to get hints about what really happened - slowly - as the story plays out - and it is rather fascinating to watch the truth come to dawn on the main character.

The story is fairly obviously about Harry who is asked by his friend Thomas to do a favour for him on his deathbed and apologize to their long ago friend for something Thomas did that he thought he was going to go to hell for.

Harry was drunk the night this fight happened, and he can't remember much of what happened - but what I think is really cool is that by the end of the movie I'm starting to wonder if his mind made him intentionally forget what happened. Sometimes what we've done is so traumatic we choose to forget what we did.

Very painful memories from a very long time ago come back to Harry - and parts of this movie really made me cry.

This movie deserves 8 or 9 stars - and it is SO, SO much better to see something like this than some shallow characters in a car chase and fights and shootouts, blah blah blah.

I loved this movie. It sneaks up on you. It's message is obviously to be honest with yourself and don't let your life pass you by without telling those you love how you feel.

Don't miss this movie - and trust me - and take my word for it - please watch this movie before you read any other reviews.

It's better to see this movie before you know what it is about.

I did - and I'm glad I did.
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4/10
Handsome? Perhaps, s-l-o-w... yes.
ptb-825 March 2011
Here is an interesting indie production which feels like an adapted stage play. It certainly wanders along like one and must be the slowest 94 minutes I have ever spent in a cinema. The film has excellent dialog and some terrific acting, especially from the guest professionals John Savage, Aiden Quinn and Campbell Scott. Steve Buscemi also appears with main actor Jamey Sheridan who has no chance of stardom until he spells his name properly. A 50 year old actor called Jamey? no. Sorry. Also HANDSOME HARRY is completely the wrong title for this film. basically it is about unrequited love and in this case between reminiscences and a possible crime of passion. While I admired the skill in creating such a well populated acting roster, the editing and the story sequence became mired in being a vanity project for Sheridan who appears in 95% of the film and is also the Exec Producer. Conscious of this from the opening credits, I felt the film dragged in order for him to have great long scenes with the more famous actors he hired to be seen on screen with. Fortunately all the scenes are good but they are all-so-slowwwwww and the film becomes tedious. Also, the final sequences with Campbell Scott come far too late in the film to have the real impact they should. The sequence with John Savage is by far the best and proves what a major actor he still is. I wanted to like this well made and very well written and acted film more but it negates itself by being 15 minutes too long. If edited to a tighter 80 minutes it would have flowed better and got to the point quicker. Also the Teenage sailor sequences needed to all happen at the start of the film rather than being in glimpses scattered throughout.
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astoundingly Neanderthal reviews..
tempus119 May 2011
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of a fine, finely acted little movie. Wonder what kind of person is so petty that s/he makes snotty posts about the spelling of actors' names with attempts at snippy remarks about them 'never becoming stars until they learn to spell the name correctly'?!!? Astoundingly juvenile and asinine--and, I might add, I'm sure that JamEY Sheridan couldn't care less what people think of his 'lack of stardom' OR his name or the spelling of same. He's a fine actor who has toiled in relative obscurity so that cretins who love Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt can get their idiot fix. I suppose that any movie which is not solid car chases, noise, screaming, and bad sex scenes will bore such viewers, but why do they choose to SEE movies like this one? Go see Mission Impossible 12 or the latest idiocy with any current Hollywood 'star'--do us all a favor. LOL
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5/10
Disjointed
airdrieguy26 December 2011
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Misleading description of movie as the crime is well known to those who committed it and everyone seems genuinely sorry so not sure what the point of the movie is. You only maim the ones you love? You will sleep with anyone and mess with anyone's emotions because it will drag out the movie? It will take an endless amount of time to drive from somewhere in upstate New York to Miami but only minutes to drive home? Disjointed vignettes of one man's search for absolution is how I would describe this movie. Too much happens for which there is no explanation and the explanations provided are in no way consistent with the whom the characters claim to be.
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10/10
Excellent movie about the crime and its possible forgiveness
SheWillRememberYourHeart23 January 2011
I just saw this movie and not knowing much about it, I didn't know what to expect. Whatever my expectations, the movie had surpassed them. The cast is brilliant, the dialog tight, the building of the story towards the climax careful, sensitive and moving.

It's the story of a man, "Handsome" Harry (Jamie Sheridan) who didn't know his own life was a failure until he gets a call from an old navy friend (Steve Buscemi), forcing him to examine his life. It leads him on a road trip during which he seeks absolution - officially on his friend's behalf or maybe it's for himself - and has to come to grips with the decisions that he's made, the people that he's hurt and the crime he has committed. At the end of this journey, will he have the courage and strength to overcome the fear that drove him in the past?

I suspect the people who gave the movie poor grades were expecting something else entirely, a suspense thriller, and that's why they were disappointed. While there is some suspense here, it is first and foremost a soul-searching, heart-wrenching drama. And I for one feel richer for having seen it. Much like the jazz music that makes the beautiful soundtrack, there is not one note in it that's out of tune.
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4/10
Uninteresting theme that belongs to a made for TV Soecial
jordondave-280859 December 2023
(2009) Handsome Harry DRAMA

Harry Sweeney or "Handsome Harry" (Jamey Sheridan) hence the title makes a promise to former army friend Thomas Kelley (Steve Buscemi) before his passing, that he were to find and locate another former army recruit to whom they used to physically mock, tease and assault just because he was gay. And from the time Harry begins his journey to the time he goes and finds him, we're then shown in flashbacks some of the mistreatment or belittlement just because Harry thought it was what his army peers had wanted. The subject matter was much more relevant during the "don't say gay!' law than the current time.
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9/10
Small gem of a film
newbijou21 February 2011
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This is a small gem of a film with a memorable ensemble cast practicing the best of low key modern American film acting style, a brilliant script, a great story that unravels like the best of mysteries and a solid, secure director who understands that the film isn't about camera moves and quick cuts. She's not afraid to let the camera sit unmoving, with a cruel, unsympathetic stand for as long as it takes to help the film breathe or to reveal a hidden moment. The film is decidedly NOT a gay film unless, of course, you're an actual homophobe. It's about moral courage, or more properly, the lack of it when a good and decent man succumbs to powerful social and psychological pressure and unwittingly sells out a friend and lover.
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5/10
Inconclusive, unsatisfying ending.....
ohlabtechguy28 November 2021
I admit I got bored and fast forwarded a lot through this movie. Thank goodness it was free on YT. I read other reviews after watching the movie and they summarized what I guessed the movie was about. The ending scene between Harry and Dave was a huge disappointment. It was the scene everyone had anticipated, but it fell flat. For example, when Dave positively pins the generator attack on Harry, Harry merely acts a little surprised. There was never any heartfelt expression of remorse and shame. Come on....you destroy your piano playing lover's right hand in some vicious cowardly attack and you are not overwhelmed with guilt, emotion and shame years later when you finally discover the truth? Come on....that's surely a person no should want to know and yet the entire movie is about Harry.
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STIFLE It...(Harry did)....and find yourself.....
arizona-philm-phan9 May 2011
.....in a new subclass of male / female sexuality: "STI-FLEXUALS."

(( "STI-FLEXUALITY"......it's a whole new word....a whole new descriptive title for a subclass of human sexuality. Beginning today, there is not only Heterosexuality....Homosexuality....Bisexuality..., BUT also this new subcategory. And peculiar to this subclass of "Stifled Sexuality" comes a new label for the Killer Fear that suppressing such feelings and behavior generates in us: "CLOSETOPHOBIA"....fear of coming out of the you-know-what )).

(( And when, in your less than fully happy life, events arise which force you to realize that it is YOU who have Stifled...no, Crushed...the God-given purpose in life of another human being (in very fact, the Love of Your Life), you become nothing less than a Shattered human being. Your only...ONLY hope being the possibility of Forgiveness" )).

Given us by this film....this writer....this director and, ultimately, by Harry himself....are vividly disturbing scenes of the devastating emotional and physical damages that such "Stifling" of our own sexual needs and desires can bring about. Following is just a very short list of some of those damages:

  • Very often, unhappiness and a sense of not having succeeded on the part of any spouse caught up in a marriage to a "Sti-flexual" partner (divorce is often the outcome).


  • Frequently, lack of closeness and connection between the "Sti-flexual" parent and his / her children, if any.


  • In most cases there is the despair and sense of non-worth which can, for years, smolder within the "Sti-flexual" (even suicide has been a drastic result).


  • Violence (often fatal) by one or more persons against an individual(s).


  • Lastly in situations like this, successful attempts at "Making it Right" or "Making up for Lost Time" are rarely achieved...or come far too late. So ask yourself after viewing this film -- Has Harry succeeded in doing so....or hasn't he?


If you learn nothing else from this film, take away this: What will ALWAYS stay with a someone like Harry is the ever hurting realization that this lost part of his (maybe Our) life has become just a throwaway....instead of a sweet and wonderful what-might-have-been. YET, can there still be REAL happiness in this kind of a man's future? Perhaps....perhaps. And in this regard, there is a based-on-true-life motion picture story of just such a salvation, now making its way through the new releases circuit. Aaahh, so perhaps all potential, and real, Harrys should be making their way to see this big-star, and likely award winning film, titled, "BEGINNERS."

Thanks, Harry, the trip's been fun!

(( PS--So, has this movie been talking about only Harry....or perhaps Me....or perhaps You, as well? ))

****
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2/10
Ridiculously lame.
zackepple-9778417 August 2022
One of the lamest movies I've ever seen. Very disappointing for Buscemi, Savage and Welliver (They must've done it as a favor to someone)... The kind of movie that Sheridan would lead. And that is all I remember worth saying.
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9/10
A candid treatment of serious themes.
PWNYCNY4 July 2013
This movie is about taking responsibility for one's actions, no matter how reprehensible. A man whose reputation is seemingly beyond reproach in fact has been harboring two secrets from the distant past, both of which suggest a darker and more sinister side of his personality. In a way, this movie is almost like a contemporary version of The Picture of Dorian Grey. On the surface, everything seems well, but that's merely a sham covering up a spiritual ugliness that sooner or later will be revealed. The presents the story in a forthright manner and is well-acted. The movie's principal character did a really rotten and hurtful thing and has been living a lie. How he resolves these issues is what this movie is about. The movie deals with these issues candidly and effectively, without bombarding the audience with pretentious and superfluous platitudes. Instead, the movie tells the story and leaves it to the audience to judge as to whether the man is worthy of forgiveness and respect.
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8/10
Brilliantly crafted gem of a movie
scg4620125 May 2011
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I found this movie to be a brilliantly crafted little gem. Rarely do we find movies that deftly handle such sensitive subject with such aplomb. The characters were extremely well written.

This film surely strikes a cord with anyone over 40 years old. Not in it's portrayal of a man struggling with his sexuality, but in it's depiction of a human being who is growing older and hasn't come to terms with things done as a young person. And the deep sorrow or regret we feel.

An excellent 94 minutes. What movie-making should be.

Please by all means see this film. I apologize for my brevity. I simply don't believe that in order to enjoy a movie we have to discuss every nuisance of the movie.
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8/10
Thoughtful and profound film
wisewebwoman11 August 2014
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I was simply blown away by this film, it far exceeded any expectations I had. The script, music, cast and direction and cinematography meld brilliantly and keep the suspense propelled throughout.

"Handsome" Harry (Jamie Sheridan), on the surface a successful electrical company owner, is pulled into his past when he gets a call from his old navy buddy (Steve Buscemi), who is dying, asking for help in putting to rest a dreadful incident in their shared past in which a horrific beating of another navy buddy takes place. The buddy wants him to make amends to their victim. Thirty years later.

The plot is propelled forward by Harry's road journey, meeting all the participants in that dreadful, shameful night.

The only flaw I found in the film was in Harry taking over a professor's class and punching the professor for denying their former friendship. It seemed oddly out of character and jarred me out of the film for a few minutes as I mentally rewrote it.

The denouement when it comes is heartbreaking.

Beautifully cast, and particularly riveting performances from Mr. Snider and Mr. Scott.

8 out of 10. I would watch again.
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10/10
A very special, deeply moving film
sidney7624 February 2012
One thing is perfectly clear from watching this diamond of a movie. The people who made this film, every person associated with it, absolutely love the medium of film. They recognize and, indeed, created, the magic that comes when a moving, riveting, very human story is told through brilliant performances of a splendid screenplay. This movie is a gift. Every single scene, every word of dialogue, is perfect. Every actor and every actress, no matter how large or how small his or her part, played his or her role stunningly and flawlessly. Most especially, Jamey Sheridan's performance should have earned him an Academy Award nomination.

All I can do is say "thank you" and "congratulations" to Bette Gordon, to Nicholas T. Proferes, to each and every actor and actress and to every individual who helped create this marvelous motion picture. I give a film a "10" when it is a movie that deeply moves me and that stays with me and, most dispositively, when I know I will watch it again and again. HANDSOME HARRY is a sure "10!"
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9/10
Sensitive Retelling of Former Navy Buddies
randyruss726 October 2017
The reviews here are splendid, articulate, fair and respectful. I simply wanted to add how, at the close of the film, clever the screenwriter broadened the flashbacks to the young Kagan and the young Sweeney. We know there's a shower encounter that causes Kagan to be outed as gay but we are made curious by how Sweeney is involved and how the film shows more and more details about Sweeney as if his own memory is allowing the truth to become conscious. I thought it especially heart- wrenching when we see the young Kagan and young Sweeney playing a duet at Kagan's grand piano in his elegant home. I had not heard of this film and was merely browsing YouTube. I chose it from its title without noting it was a full movie. I could not stop watching.
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