rumrolf Review of 6 Years

6 Years (2015)

This is not a love story, this is the portrayal of an unhealthy relationship.

[27 November 2015]

I felt like this story wanted to prove something and that is that women can also be the abusive and aggressive ones in the relationship. Have in mind that I'm a female so there's no way this is biased. I'm actually recognizing that men can be victims of abuse too. It happens. The relationship between Dan and Melanie seems perfect to the outside but has an unhealthy nature. They have arguments in which she pushes and slaps him while he tries to keep her away from him. In one incident, after she pushes him, he falls to the floor and hits his head. The blood stars running so they both go see a doctor. The doctor asks him what happened and he lies, she believes him and let them go after saying something like "okay, that's all I need to know". You can clearly see if the situation was the opposite, she would have asked a lot of questions to find out if Melanie had been hit by Dan. A friend of Dan even says so when he tells her what really happened.

Then there are more fights in which she seems like the victim but really isn't. He even goes to jail for a whole day just because the police saw them and assumed he was trying to hurt her. There's a moment when the aggressor becomes a victim when she almost gets raped by a random dude.

Thinking about it, they are both victims, of themselves. They are so caught up in that twisted "love" they feel that they can't seem to function when they are on their own. That's why she forgives his infidelities and he forgives her aggressions. That's not love that's obsession and lack of self-esteem.