I watched this movie after someone recommended it to me. I didn't really know what to expect. I had read some reviews - half of them said the movie was brilliant, warm, and moving while the other half claimed it to defend anti-Christian values.
When the movie began, I was surprised to relate to neither of those points of view. To be honest, I don't think it intends to offer parenting guidelines. I don't think the main character - a middle-aged father of six - is supposed to represent a role-model. Instead, I found it to be a very realistic portrayal of parenthood.
As parents, we are forced to make decisions every day about what we allow our children to do, what we encourage, what we forbid, and how we justify each of those decisions. Most of us want our kids to have better lives than our own. Although the sentiment behind this pursuit is of genuine love and desire for our children to strive, and not have to face the hardships or injustices we have experienced ourselves, it leaves us with no playbook. We have to make new paths as we go. These often lead to guilt, self-doubt, confusion, contradictions, sorrow, and fear. However, they also lead to the most fulfilling, adventurous, fun, and rewarding moments, when we get to see our kids have fun and thrive.
I thought the way that the director presented opposing lifestyles, where each family finds the other one grotesque, to be a very good reflection of reality. It seems it's hard for the more mainstream family to feel genuinely happy when others so different achieve good results. We are all quick to see other parents' faults, and call them out on what we consider to be harmful for their children, while accepting our own parenting limitations comes more easily. Perhaps, the highest we can aim for is the ability to listen, be open to hearing different perspectives, and knowing when to apologize for making other uncomfortable.
I think I can relate to the main character, because I think in some people's eyes, I'm that kind of mom. Being different can be hard when others are so quick to judge you. It is also very common to feel misunderstood without having the chance to explain yourself, because mainstream people are clearly uncomfortable the whole time.
I think the lesson this movie leaves me with is "Normal does not mean 'better', it just means 'more easily accepted'".
When the movie began, I was surprised to relate to neither of those points of view. To be honest, I don't think it intends to offer parenting guidelines. I don't think the main character - a middle-aged father of six - is supposed to represent a role-model. Instead, I found it to be a very realistic portrayal of parenthood.
As parents, we are forced to make decisions every day about what we allow our children to do, what we encourage, what we forbid, and how we justify each of those decisions. Most of us want our kids to have better lives than our own. Although the sentiment behind this pursuit is of genuine love and desire for our children to strive, and not have to face the hardships or injustices we have experienced ourselves, it leaves us with no playbook. We have to make new paths as we go. These often lead to guilt, self-doubt, confusion, contradictions, sorrow, and fear. However, they also lead to the most fulfilling, adventurous, fun, and rewarding moments, when we get to see our kids have fun and thrive.
I thought the way that the director presented opposing lifestyles, where each family finds the other one grotesque, to be a very good reflection of reality. It seems it's hard for the more mainstream family to feel genuinely happy when others so different achieve good results. We are all quick to see other parents' faults, and call them out on what we consider to be harmful for their children, while accepting our own parenting limitations comes more easily. Perhaps, the highest we can aim for is the ability to listen, be open to hearing different perspectives, and knowing when to apologize for making other uncomfortable.
I think I can relate to the main character, because I think in some people's eyes, I'm that kind of mom. Being different can be hard when others are so quick to judge you. It is also very common to feel misunderstood without having the chance to explain yourself, because mainstream people are clearly uncomfortable the whole time.
I think the lesson this movie leaves me with is "Normal does not mean 'better', it just means 'more easily accepted'".
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