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7/10
Beautifully shot and well acted
aleesha-880408 February 2019
The cinematography and colours were excellent. Acting was top notch.

Yet there was something lacking. The character of the wife felt very...one dimensional and overly consumed by her grief. Although understandable I wish we saw her get some closure in the end regarding the entire situation. The best character for me was Jay. He was beautifully fleshed out & made me shed a tear or two.
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8/10
a love confession starting with "Dear"
actress_tw31 December 2018
I wonder why there is a "Dear" in the film's English title. A confession to the protagonists' past relationships, or a revenge? Or, maybe both.

Hovering in my head for hours and hours after the emotionally powerful film-viewing experience is the main theme named Bali Song, unpretentious background music for a stage drama considered to be the Ex's brainchild in the film. The song is a ballad mixed with a bit folk and some dreamy, laidback and even sexy retro pop, with its arousing opening whistle notes sentimentally visualizing a pleasant and romantic vacation, an ideal escape and an Utopia...for anyone longing for true freedom in his/her same-sex romantic relationships against the so-called social convention. The use of music here is such a gentle and subtle move within the film's melodramatic context and a breath of fresh air out of the "traditional" conventions in the still relatively conservative Chinese culture, or even in most Asian cultures. To my surprise, though, the music and lyrics of Bali Song also work as a nice replacement (instead of a compliment) to the mediocre stage drama that it's echoing in the film.

At times, this film quietly reminds me of works from Taiwan New Cinema spearhead Edward Yang, while its music, its character-driven plot, and somewhat overacting with surely a purpose breaks my illusions immediately. It is a sharp reflection as well as honest observation of life in Taipei, for the first decade of the 21st Century or so, not of life more than 25 years ago, when Ang Lee's Wedding Banquet came out.

The film is never comfortable to watch. Literally, it is a love confession (-starting with Dear) to whoever has once been either an annoying adolescent or adult ( a.k.a. the most stupid creature on earth ). So, get your tissues ready if you wouldn't mind taking a HOME-bound emotional roller-coaster with the family drama, and then...getting bombarded by that song!
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7/10
Roy Chiu is simply amazing
AsianTalentHollywood15 September 2020
The cinematography is so beautiful in this film and the journey of the main characters is a subtle learning experience so well crafted. But the most amazing part of this film is Roy Chiu who settles into every scene so perfectly. Truly a stellar performance.
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Light Comedy, Heavy Subjects (best LGBTQ film of the year)
cctv829 February 2019
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A hysterical mother getting back the life insurance money left to the gay lover by her dead-by-cancer husband. You would think it'd be another depressing drama on LGBTQ tragedies, but it's actually a light comedy, with bits that make you laugh out loud. The heavy subjects are handled beautifully by 'everyday dialogues" with the story told through the teenager's perspective.

The actress has won several awards for the role of the "crazy" mother now, her performance really reminds you of every kind of mothers you know.

A rare, refreshing indie film from Taiwan that touches on LGBTQ issues, you should definitely check it out.
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6/10
Just yelling and bad acting
rigo22225 May 2021
The theme is interesting and very often exploited but that's about it. The characters are not likable, the pace is slow and there's way too much yelling. Bad.
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10/10
A good LGBTQ tearjerker after a long time
shalini-dhyanii3 March 2019
This was my first Taiwanese movie which i watched on Netflix just now. I thought it would be a comedy ,however the first flashback in the movie made me cry and it felt like i was watching "P.S I love you" or "Brokeback mountain".. I had no expectations from it at the beginning,however was so impressed with the movie after i finished it.. Loved the Bali Whistle song as well :)
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10/10
Difficult to translate
jeanne-wu-is29 March 2019
This movies is seriously difficult to translate. After reading some of the reviews, I can see how the subtitles cannot hurdle past the culture gap. Yes, there're a lot of yelling. Yes, the screenplay seems messy. But the story is told through the eyes of a young teenager, coming to term with his father's death and is confused by the surrounding mess and emotions. You really have to read between the lines in order to understand how each of the characters is coping with the trauma. I really enjoyed the film despite the yelling. It's worth the watch.
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10/10
A beautifully written story among a man, and woman and the city
ethandeanchen1 January 2019
Dear Ex must be best film produced in 2018 in Taiwan. Both actor and actress showed incredible performance in the movie. Yhe plot really makes you think over and over again after coming out of the movie theater. it's one of those movies that will make you want to see at least 3 more times and collect its DVD
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9/10
It doesn't matter who falls in love with him first
w-714743 April 2020
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The film is based on three characters, presenting us with a tangled, ironic, sharp story. But the movie is extremely gentle. It deliberately starts from the child's perspective, interspersed with children's emotional graffiti, and presents us with a light comedy. Although the film's story is very realistic and cruel, the film does not deliberately portray who is bad, nor does it emphasize who is the victim. It entangles the superficial things of family, love, ethics and money, and allows us to touch us with the goodwill and conscience from the bottom of our hearts. Maybe, it doesn't matter who falls in love with him first. What's important is that we will never give up that hot heart eager to love and be loved. Maybe, in the end, it doesn't matter who he falls in love with. In the end, we can find a relative harmony under the power of society and public opinion.

The film eventually adopted a "compromise" approach, drawing a hopeful but unending ellipsis for similar problems in our society today. Everyone has reached the end of a "harmony", which is perhaps the best ending of this story. When "Xiao Wang" 's mother held flowers and hugged him, it was the fact that her mother accepted her son to be homosexual, and it also symbolized the moment when this society would finally accept comrades. "Little Three" finally ate the fried chicken steak that he tried to prevent his son from eating, and talked and laughed with his son on the streets of Taipei. This is a final understanding and tolerance.
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5/10
Exploitating a gay topic to illustrate a gay wife's misery.
danbadarjee20 February 2019
I don't have a problem with how the film presented a mess this Sanlian Liu was facing after her husband left her for a young man, however the film after all is tapping on a very sensitive topic where all the members of this family was involved. There are two guys in love with each other, there is a son, there is a wife. The film spent a lot of time shaping the female character and didn't go into the romantic relationship of the two men. It somehow stays somewhere like a relative of brotherhood level. As an audience, i need a strong justification convincing me to forgive the husband cheating his wife into a marrage and leaving her after 14 years. Yes you got sick and you were dying. And you wanna be yourself in your ramaining days, but it's just not good enough for me that you did what you did to the poor woman just because of your selfish reasons.

if the film strech further into the gay couples' romance and present a fact that this husband had no chiece but to choose him after an internal struggle, the film would have been a lot better.

I would not give this film more than 5 out of 10. The film is after all talking about an unfortunate marrige and it should balance all the characters evenly so that the gay guys presented won't look like dicks or at list one of them did.
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9/10
Refreshing, funny and emotional
eatkuih8 February 2019
Superb acting, especially by the female lead. Her portrayal of emotions and tone are done excellently, while other two leading actors were performing well too. The plot and editing are slightly slow-paced but very intriguing.

Unlike some other recent taiwanese films which tend to be cringey in their dialogues or acting, Dear Ex is rather an enjoyable movie with some zest. The jokes are funny! It's refreshing to watch as it showcases another perspective of a gay's life. If queer films aren't your cup of tea, fret not as the film focused more on how one's life/family is affected by one's bisexuality and doesn't really try to promote LGBT or anything.

As an asian I can said that many moments in the film were very relatable. This is actually my first time reviewing on IMDb. Highly recommend this film!
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9/10
Beautiful and Strong Story
bayubirru9 April 2019
The story is very well written, while the actors and actresses act very excellent. The combination between beautiful story and incredible actors/actresses create this movie have a strong emotional relation with the viewer.

This movie make me to create an IMDB account to review them!
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10/10
Powerfully Poignant!
akira-hideyo10 June 2021
The movie plot premise is not entirely a fictional entertainment piece. Imagine this happens, or is already happening around the world, how would the first family (spouse, parents, children.. Etc) deal with such a twist. Perhaps if those affected could dig deeper to understand the motivation of such a shocker, why one would do what one would normally do. Then the world would be a more harmonious and peaceful existence. Top rated performances from both the male and female leafs. Brilliant?!
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8/10
Absolutely loved it!
cafeosh3 December 2020
I wasn't expecting anything when I decided to watch this movie Bcz I have never watched any Taiwanese movie before. Right from the starting I found the animations really cute and it added so much more sense as the movie went along. I understand that lost of dialouge meaning are lot in translations Bcz of the subtitles still I found the dialogues very touching. The actors did a great job. One of the most remarkable scene has to be the bathroom scene when he starts starts cutting his hair as his lover who is suffering from cancer refuses to shave his. Also the drama scene in the ending got me bawling my eyes out. The soundtrack of the movie is amazing.

This movie isn't for people who don't enjoy slow paced movies dialouge heavy movies!

But I would recommend this movie for ppl who do enjoy good lgbt dramas which are realistic and emotional.
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It was an impressive movie despite Netflix.
DansLeNoir26 August 2020
My expectation was pretty low and I liked it after the movie progressed a bit. It's a successful movie, though its ends are as expected. The acting, the characters, the story and the emotions made me love the film. It was one of the best Netflix productions I've watched.
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4/10
Disappointingly Shallow
nehpetstephen21 November 2019
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Kudos to Taiwan for being the first country in Asia to legalize same-sex marriage, and I'm thankful to this film for presenting that subject in a heartfelt and empathetic manner. However, this film is quite grating, half-baked, and unsatisfying.

The filmmakers have, I assume, stacked the deck far too generously in favor of the gay character. Perhaps they were anxious that viewers would be a little homophobic and would too readily side with the widow/mom. To prevent that, they've made the mother as outrageously obnoxious as possible. She screams, she squeals, she rages. She bursts into self-pitying sobs. She is self-centered, obsessed with material things, overbearing, and LOUD. Certainly there are people like that in the real world, but the actress's performance never made it anything more than an annoying caricature. Perhaps a Taiwanese audience would find some particular humor in her performance, but I saw only poor acting, confusing motivation, and a person that was a chore to watch.

The gay character has a bit of an arc. He becomes more nuanced and (somewhat predictably) more sympathetic as the film progresses, yet the movie never gives the same degree of depth to the mother. There are scenes late in the film that lend pathos to her plight--such as when she desperately tries to appear sexy to her husband, using her coworker's demeaning advice and her research into pornography as inspiration--but the extreme register at which these scenes are keyed in (every moment with the mom is dialed in at 11) undercut their effectiveness. The filmmakers seem to have been so convinced that the mother would be the natural source of empathy that they haven't bothered to make her a meaningful, worthwhile human being.

The son is supposedly the main character of this movie, and he awkwardly narrates much of it. Some hand-drawn animation gives us insight into his imagination (I guess?). The son is one-dimensional, however; he is essentially interchangeable with any other teenage male high school student, and in no way does he develop as a protagonist or "come of age." His motivations are likewise very strange throughout the film.

The final act of the film is surprisingly subdued and poignant, and I thought the filmmaker was nicely restrained in showing us the gay character's magnum opus without ever really explaining what it all meant or how/if it meaningfully reflected his relationship with the dead father. The pleasant, nuanced thoughtfulness of the ending was enough to lift my rating to a 4/10.

But then there are also very loud, on-the-nose elements to the ending that counteract its success. While the actors are giving their stage bows, the gay characters possibly homophobic mother emerges from the back of the theater, holding a bouquet of flowers and beaming her love towards her son. She still loves him! She approves! She hasn't rejected him now that she knows he is gay! And yet... There were roughly eight people in the audience, and they all would have been visible throughout the performance. Did the guy not see his mother in the crowd all this time? Or did she somehow purposely wait until after the play was over until entering? If so, that seems like a really misguided way of showing support. The scene doesn't make much sense. It's supposed to be a warm, fuzzy moment of redemption, but its message is muddled by the fact that we know next to nothing about the mother's character. If she so readily accepts his sexuality, then maybe she never really had a problem with it to begin with? And if she had to struggle to accept it, then what did that struggle consist of? Certainly she didn't see the play--that wasn't part of her struggle. So what lesson are we supposed to get from this?

Other elements of the movie likewise ring with falseness, like the gay character's apartment, which is simultaneously "filthy" and yet very colorful and artistically arranged... like a set, i.e, a fictional idea of filthy rather than a realistic filthy apartment.

Taiwan has a great history of cinema, from the blockbusters of Ang Lee to the artful meditations of Edward Yang to more mainstream pleasant fare like Starry Starry Night. This film, unfortunately, doesn't quite cut it.
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8/10
like a Suspense film
amy-3626710 February 2019
It is a good Taiwan movie. The story is about gender diversity. They did the narration for the movie. when you watch the movie, you will guess why the actor do this; like you are a detective. And then I think you will cry in the end, you will realize there are not right and wrong in love, only timing.
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9/10
A funny Wong Ka Wai
madbird-612436 February 2019
Its setting and shooting style is like Wong Ka Wai. At first I think it is another boring film like that produced by Wong.

To my surprise, it is not. I love the animation added in the movie. The atmosphere for most part is blue and dull, with the death of a father and a fight for his insurance compensation. The animation makes the whole story lighter and happier. And I like its happy ending. It is like a funny version of Wong Ka Wai's movie.

The acting of the female lead is superb and impressive. No doubt she won a Best actress. The other two male leads are equally good.

The plot twist to reveal the story of the male lover is really surprising. His appearance is not really like a good guy. But he is.

A story with a very special theme. Good cinematography. Lively animation. Superb actors. A story very worth immediate watching.
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9/10
Best LGBT movie ever
djinnmoto6 March 2020
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I didn't know it's a movie about the love of two men at first but then it's coming to mind just after a few minutes of watching, thru the eyes and persective of a teenager whose father was one of the men. And the mother is the one who suffer the most, yes? NO! just watch the movie till the very end.

Taiwan is developing its skills in the movie industry recently. This is heart wrenching. This is what you need in this society.

You need to pay attention to every frame 'cause they are kind of mixed up and kind of confusing about time but it's worth your time.

This would pull tears down your cheeks.
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8/10
a compulsive jewel wears its heart of humanistic compassion and salutary intention on its sleeve
lasttimeisaw19 July 2019
Taiwanese senior teleplay writer Mag Hsu's feature film debut, co-directed with Hsu Chih-Yen, an indigenous winner in the 55th Golden Horse Awards (winning 3 awards: BEST LEADING ACTRESS, BEST EDITING and BEST ORIGINAL SONG out of 8 nominations), DEAR EX uncharacteristically employs a comical tone to grapple with the harsh aftermath of bereavement, a closeted gay man Song Zhengyuan (Chen, lead vocalist of the local rock band Quarterback) dies of cancer, but to his ex-wife Liu Sanlian's (Hsieh) astonishment, instead of leaving his insurance payout to their teenage son Chengxi (Huang), the beneficiary turns out to be Song's male lover Ah Jie (Chiu), a nasty fight over pecuniary compensation apparently bubbles on the horizon, but DEAR EX has a much larger heart in its nexus....

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An unwatchable mess
TheBigSick2 February 2019
The screenplay is thin and unconvincing. The plot lacks credibility and the dialogues/monologues are ill-written. The direction and editing are pretty showy and pretentious. The ensemble cast, Hsieh Ying-Shiuan excluded, give awkward performances overall. The music score is pretty much disturbing and noisy.
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2/10
Seriously terrible movie!
qui_j6 February 2019
The movie moves at the slowest pace imaginable. The acting is poor and the use of constant flashbacks are annoying. The story never goes anywhere other than just being a chaotic mess of constant whining and shouting. It's really, really bad!
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10/10
True masterpiece
wanan140320207 February 2021
Everything is on point, acting, perfect. Plot, perfect. Set, perfect and a lot of tears
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10/10
A beautiful story with an amazing vibe
Sillyreviews19 September 2022
Its a beautiful portrayal of a love affair and the impact of it on the family. It shows a changing society where lgbt love is more accepted and is still getting accepted. But that it is a gay affair is not the center of the story, the mourning of his ex wife and son and how to deal with those emotions. How to deal with the boyfriend of her ex husband and of his dad, and how to overcome the challenges that they need to work together for. Because of its slow pace you can really get to know the characters and feel their pain and joy, which can come as a surprise at times. The music and lighting really makes this film come to life, it sucks you even more into the story and into Taiwanese society. You really miss something if you don't watch it.
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10/10
SUCH a good movie
janjansson-4565926 October 2020
This is one of the best lgbtq+ movies i have seen, and it might be one of the best movies i have ever seen in general. Really interesting story, I couldn´t take my eyes off the screen for the entire movie. Definitly worth watching.
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