Superman & Lois (TV Series)

Holding the Wrench (2021)

Wendy Crewson: Dr. Wiles

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• Lois Lane : I don't really look back with regret. I reflect, or... but I don't usually regret, but this?

  Dr. Wiles : Is it possible you're, um, you're being too hard on yourself?

  Lois Lane : No. I was enraged. You have no idea the things that I said.

  Dr. Wiles : I read your articles, your critiques. Let's just say I know what your words are capable of.

  Lois Lane : I can go full scorched-earth, and if that is my intention, you deserve it. But this person didn't. I think that sometimes, words cut so deep that they forever change how you see a person. And I don't know how to fix this.

• Dr. Wiles : Lois, what a nice surprise. Thanks for waiting.

  Lois Lane : Thanks for seeing me on such short notice. I know it's been a while.

  Dr. Wiles : You know, when they were cadets, your dad kept my husband from getting kicked out of the academy... twice? My door is always open for you. So, what brings you in today?

  Lois Lane : We have been having some life changes, pretty major life changes. Don't get me wrong; life has always been complicated. I'm good at complicated, but today I kind of got blindsided and... just somehow felt like everything was slipping through my fingers. I lost my temper... and I am worried that if I can't pull it together, I'm at risk of hurting someone I really love more than I already have.

• Lois Lane : Look, I get how important it is to grieve the loss. I read all the books, all the websites. I'm just one of those people that copes better when there's more on my plate, not less. It helps me focus.

  Dr. Wiles : I just wonder, given the emotions you describe and the way you reacted to Jonathan, if you needed more time to process your grief.

  Lois Lane : I used my vacation days. I allowed myself the time.

  Dr. Wiles : Lois, why did you yell at Jonathan?

  Lois Lane : He put himself in danger.

  Dr. Wiles : That's why you lost control?

  Lois Lane : I told you, he scared me.

  Dr. Wiles : That's it? Nothing else?

  Lois Lane : [letting her emotions out]  What else do you want me to say? That he was only there because of me, and that if-if he... he had gotten hurt or worse, it would've been because of me? I can't lose another child because of me.

• Dr. Wiles : Is there a reason you haven't told me everything?

  Lois Lane : What do you mean?

  Dr. Wiles : I'm just wondering who you lashed out at, who you're worried won't look at you the same.

  Lois Lane : My son, Jonathan. You should get better chairs.

  Dr. Wiles : Lois, what happened today?

  Lois Lane : Jon did something stupid, and I got mad.

  Dr. Wiles : Want to talk about what he did?

  Lois Lane : He went out and got himself in trouble. Honestly, it's a miracle he's alive.

  Dr. Wiles : Sounds like whatever happened, it scared you.

  Lois Lane : [starting to cry]  You have no idea. It's like it's hard enough being a parent, raising them and caring for them, and then they get old enough and still a part of you is just out in the world, like your heart is just out there and anything can happen to it, and there's nothing you can do.

  Dr. Wiles : It sounds like you felt helpless, powerless.

  Lois Lane : Not like I have in a long time.

  Dr. Wiles : I'm sure. Probably not since your miscarriage.

  Lois Lane : You helped me a lot back then.

  Dr. Wiles : You only came the once.

  Lois Lane : With my job, it's kind of hard enough making time for my family, and... miscarriages are pretty common.

  Dr. Wiles : Common, yes, but they can also be traumatic. And as I recall, you already had a name picked out.

  Lois Lane : We were gonna name her after my grandmother, Natalie.

• Dr. Wiles : Lois, we respond to grief in many ways, but you have to realize, this...

  Lois Lane : Is this the part where you tell me the miscarriage wasn't my fault? Because... the guilt that I feel is real. I never stopped working.

  Dr. Wiles : Work, exercising, having sex, lifting something heavy, that's not why you lost your child.

  Lois Lane : You don't know that.

  Dr. Wiles : The majority of miscarriages are caused by a genetic issue.

  Lois Lane : Yeah, I know, but...

  Dr. Wiles : Lois, you have control of your life in a way most don't, but the things you can't control, you have to learn to accept them and let them go. Your miscarriage wasn't because of something you did or didn't do. It was something that happened to you.

  Lois Lane : [letting herself cry]  I was so excited to meet her.

  Dr. Wiles : I wish there was a shortcut, but you have to allow yourself to go through the grieving process, no matter how much time it takes, because when you don't...

  Lois Lane : Yeah, I know. I saw what can happen when you don't.