- Debra and the family get into Ray's private tape with a message from his ex-girlfriend breaking up with him on it. They wonder why Ray has kept it all this time, and also question about the break-up.
- When Debra stumbles across a cassette tape that contains a message from Ray's ex-girlfriend, she wants to know why he has saved it all of these years. Ray then insists that Debra divulge any gifts that she's kept from her former boyfriends, and he's in for quite a shock when he sees the quantity of gifts still in her possession.
- Debra was cleaning out the basement and came across a box of Ray's old Foosball trophies. Debra finds a tape of Ray's (labeled Karen 1982), a message left from an old girlfriend of his: she dumped him over the phone. Ray pretends that he doesn't remember the tape and claims that he didn't store it for so many years. Debra says that Ray took the tape out of the answering machine, labeled it and then kept it in a box of trophies that he knew he would never throw away. Ray took the time to pop out the tabs on the tape, something that he neglected to do on their wedding video.
Frank says that all evidence from part relationships should be erased, while Marie says that she kept everything from her past hookups. Debra is curious to know why Ray kept it all these years. She says people keep the good stuff, but not the breakup tapes. Now Ray is curious what "good stuff" Debra has kept from her old boyfriends. Marie is not happy that Debra has kept secrets from Ray, but Debra says every time she brought up her past relationships, Ray didn't want to talk about them.
They start discussing gifts from previous relationships and Debra points out all the items in the house that were gifts from her old boyfriends. She has a poem written (about her eyes) by a guy Chad from the 10th grade (Ray laughs at the poem, but Debra says that Chad ended up going to Yale). A bird feeder from Gary, pepper grinder, Ally's doll with the blue dress, the leaky cooler in the garage, Lamp with the horses, the white picture frame (in which Debra had put a picture of her kids and Debra has to clarify that Ray is the father), and so on. It is clear that Ray is not OK having Debra's gift from her ex-lovers in the house.
Ray gets new substitutes and tries to throw all the old gifts away, including his own. He even writes a new poem for Debra (about her ears). Turns out Ray only had the tape from his past and is threatened by the museum of erotica from Debra's past. He wants to throw it all away (Turns out the tape was the only thing from Ray's past that he kept. All the other things that Debra thought was from his ex-girlfriends came from Marie), but Debra says her past is what made her who she is.
Debra feels that Ray believes that all her gifts mean as much to her, as the tapes mean to him. Ray understands and says that he kept the tape as he wonders why the girl on the tape broke up with him. Ray says that things were going well with Karen, and they had been going out for a couple of months. He never got closure. So, Debra makes him a new tape listing all the reasons why she should break up with Ray but says she never will as he is perfect for her. She gives the tape to Ray as his new memory.
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