First of all, we have Oz, whose problem we are well aware of. I've been wondering where he was being caged. We find out in this episode. So given that, it would seem that he would be given a bit of space when it comes to judgment. That female singer and her sultriness comes from the animal in her. If Oz can be forgiven for what happens when the full moon comes out, why can't his involuntary actions be overlooked. He loves Willow so why doesn't she cut him some slack. How about a non-emotional interactions. Buffy is the same way. She sees something happening from a distance and jumps to an immediate conclusion. How about the fact that these are your friends. I know they are kids but they have so much history. How about the benefit of the doubt. Willow brings much of this on herself. She has lectured people about possessiveness and yet she engages in it here. I thought the episode was OK but it needs to be resolved.